If you’re with someone just because of the way they look, that doesn’t always mean it’s going to go the distance. On Monday’s episode of “The Real,” the hosts asked the question: Is a man shallow if he wants a beautiful wife?
The topic led to a discussion of why relationships can’t always survive on physical attraction alone.
Jeannie asked, “Are we assuming his definition of beautiful is aesthetic? He could see a beautiful woman as a woman with a beautiful heart and a beautiful personality.”
Adrienne noted that it’s hard to see someone’s “heart” from across the room when you first lay eyes on them, and that ideas of attractiveness differ. “It’s whatever you find beautiful, and you should marry a girl you think is a 10 for you.”
Tam added, “It’s important to be attracted to a person, but if you only want to be with that person because of a physical attribute, and you want to get married, and you want that marriage to be successful… sweetie, that’s not going to sustain your marriage. After a while, those looks fade.” She also called physical attractiveness “the icing on the cake, but it can’t be the cake itself.”
Guest bro-host Joey Fatone added his thoughts, explaining how a person’s so-called “beauty” can dissipate if a relationship doesn’t have the right foundation.
Joey said, “The person could be beautiful, but if there’s no depth to that person, or maybe the same goals that you don’t have… again, you can have a relationship with that person and be like, ‘Oh my gosh, that’s amazing and you’re beautiful, and you guys get along. But then as it starts to go… ‘Do you want kids? Or, what’s the relationship? Oh, I like Chinese food. Do you like Italian? No, I don’t.’ And then it becomes, ‘Where do you want to eat? I don’t know, where you want to eat?’ Well, now you just became ugly.”
What do you think is the most important thing in making a relationship last?