If you’re not consistently having sex with your man, then whose fault is it when he cheats? The Game recently took to Twitter to pose this question, and the ladies of “The Real” voiced their opinions about the topic on Thursday’s show.
For Adrienne, cheating represents deeper issues. She said, “I think it’s so many other areas that affect why people cheat. I don’t think it’s about that. It’s always so much deeper. But I will say this. I don’t think that that’s an excuse for it, and if you felt that there was an issue in that area of your relationship, why not have a discussion about it before you go and cheat on the person?”
Jeannie felt that even if you haven’t had sex in a long time, that fact will never warrant cheating, and there’s no excuse for the act. She stated, “Men, you have a mind. You have choice and you have morals.”
Tamera identified that sexless marriages are a reality for some people, but it’s important for both people in the couple to have a conversation about what’s going on. “If you’re not happy, you have to express that to your partner,” mirroring Jeannie’s point that it doesn’t give you an excuse to cheat, and you have to let your partner know what’s important to you and then make some real decisions. She remarked, “I would rather my husband separate out of unhappiness than cheat out of unhappiness.”
If Adrienne sensed she wasn’t connecting with her partner on a sexual level, she feels she would need to address it.
Loni observed that sometimes threatening to cheat, or cheating when they’re not getting what they want, can be a “mechanism of control” that some men have on women. “It’s an excuse.” She added, “Sometimes you can have all the sex you want, and he’ll still cheat on you!”
Real fam, what are your thoughts?