What Tamera Realized When She Turned 40

Does getting older mean you become less tolerant? The ladies of “The Real” discussed an Elite Daily article that says you start placing your own needs over others as time goes on, and the co-hosts opened up about whether they feel they’ve gotten angrier with age.

Adrienne doesn’t think you get angry, she thinks you reach a place of peace and "don’t desire to deal with people who don’t bring you peace.” She explained, “Your circle becomes smaller. You don’t have a desire to please everybody, so you don’t want to be around people you don’t want to be around.”

When Tamera turned 39 and especially when she turned 40, she began to notice something. “I was really naive and I loved people so hard that I expected everybody to be really nice and just really good people. You treat people how you want them to treat you. But once I got Twitter and Instagram and I got older, I realized, ‘Man, there are a lot of negative and sometimes mean people.’ At 40, I was just, like, ‘I don’t have time for the pettiness.’ I’m not a people pleaser anymore, and wow, that is so freeing.”

Jeannie feels that as you age, you start to know yourself better. “You know what you’re willing to put up with. You know what you like and you know what you don’t like.”

Loni’s take is that the older you get, the more you “realize life is precious.” She elaborated, “You just don’t want to waste your time.”

What life lessons have you learned with age?


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