On Monday’s episode of “The Real,” guest co-host Amanda Seales discussed society’s obsession with likability. The “Small Doses: Potent Truths for Everyday Use” author remarked, “I get a lot of people being like, ‘I don’t like her. She’s not likable. We don’t like her.’ Not just about me, but in general.”
During the show’s Girl Chat segment, the comedian and actress brought up an extremely valid point: Why are women judged for their likability, but men are not?
For Seales, “women who have a strong opinion, and who are very vocal” are often ostracized for speaking their mind. However, men — especially those who are direct and have take-charge personalities — are usually not gauged the same way.
“I don’t think we hear about, ‘Oh, I like that guy’” the “Bring the Funny” host noted. “We be like, “He’s focused, he’s a boss.’”
Amanda continued, “When we’re very ardent, especially just strong in our opinion, it feels like we’re pushing people away, and that makes them think we’re not likable.”
Loni Love added, “Especially as black women, they always say we’re aggressive.”
Real fam, do you think women get the short end of the stick when it comes to likability?