Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham are perfectly happy NOT being married.
On Wednesday, “The Oprah Winfrey Show” host penned a column for O mag’s February issue explaining why she never tied the knot with her longtime partner — despite accepting his proposal in 1993.
“For years, there were hundreds of tabloid stories, weekly, on whether we would marry. In 1993, the moment after I said yes to his proposal, I had doubts,” she wrote.
Ultimately, the media mogul did not “actually want a marriage,” she just “wanted to be asked.”
“I wanted to know he felt I was worthy of being his missus, but I didn’t want the sacrifices, the compromises, the day-in-day-out commitment required to make a marriage work,” she explained. “My life with the show was my priority, and we both knew it.”
The chairwoman and CEO of Harpo Productions concluded, “He and I agree that had we tied the marital knot, we would not still be together.”
The 65-year-old also opened up about why their relationship has succeeded.
“Our relationship works because he created an identity beyond being ‘Oprah’s man’ (he teaches Identity Leadership around the world and has written multiple books on the subject),” she revealed. “And because we share all the values that matter (integrity being number one). And because we relish seeing the other fulfill and manifest their destiny and purpose.”
“Anyone who’s ever met him is always amazed by what a genuine gentleman he is. He’s so positive,” she added. “Wants the best for me and everyone he knows. Truly wishes people well. Doesn’t curse. (I’ve been known to.) Never have I heard him gossip or say a negative thing about anyone. (I have, plenty of times.)”
The “Beloved” actress previously discussed her and Graham’s dynamic in the 2017 September issue of Vogue.
“His interpretation of what it means to be a husband and what it would mean for me to be a wife would have been pretty traditional, and I would not have been able to fit into that,” she said at the time.