When Is the Right Time to Define a Relationship?

The dreaded question of every new relationship!

On Friday’s episode of “The Real,” the panel discussed a Reddit forum in which a user asked when the appropriate time is to define one’s romantic situation, i.e. “boyfriend” and “girlfriend.”

While some don’t want to ask too soon, others fear that if they don’t ask, they’ll be in a situation where their feelings aren’t reciprocated.

To begin, Loni Love hilariously remarked, “I don’t play them games. You hit this twice, we go together!”

However, Amanda Seales revealed she was forced to have this specific conversation “right now.”

“No one’s hitting it unless we are in the building. That’s where I’m at,” she exclaimed. “At this point in my life, I’m not dating to enjoy each other’s company. ’Cause that used to be a thing.”

In fact, the “Insecure” actress is only interested in a committed relationship.

“If I am dating you, I am dating for the purpose of meeting somebody that I want to have a meaningful, long-term relationship with… If that’s not something that you want for yourself, then we shouldn’t date.”

Though it may be uncomfortable, asking the “What are we?” question is important. Just listen to Tamera Mowry-Housley, who mistakenly thought she was exclusive with now-husband Adam Housley when they first started dating.

“I was horrible at dating because I didn’t do it a lot. When I was dating Adam, within like two or three weeks, I thought we were dating exclusively, like naïve. And I remember, I was trying to get a hold of him one day, and [twin sister] Tia was like, ‘What is wrong with you? He’s probably dating someone else. Like, relax!’ and she was actually right.”

Fortunately, Adam dumped the other woman, and the rest is history!


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